Just a few years ago, when a woman got married, she had to say she would “love and obey” her husband.
Well, some women got rebellious and lost respect for men altogether! I was certainly raised in a home where the man was a lazy jerk. I was well-trained in the “men are lazy butts” mentality.
Who would have thought that my definition of men would roll into my marriage, but it did. It was a strong, controlling attitude.
I would use my beauty or whatever else I could to get my way because I knew men were easily manipulated. Yes, I said it. Not all men, but certainly most!
After I was saved, I learned a new word: ‘submit.’ “What?!” I thought. That’s just a word, right? Surely it wasn’t a requirement anymore. After all, God didn’t really know what the modern-day men were going to be like, did He? (Of course He did, but we babies don’t really believe that God knows all, do we?)
A mentor of mine said, “The way you submit to your husband is a picture of how you submit to the Lord.” Ouch! That stuck me right in the heart! I knew I didn’t submit to my husband. I was a little bit smarter than he was, and I was always right—right?
I quickly learned that when I did not submit to my husband’s final decision, fear might be controlling the direction I was trying to lead us from the back seat. People in the back seat try to tell the driver how to drive, but they don’t have the same perspective as the driver in the front!
I looked up the synonyms for ‘obey’ and ‘submit’:
Obey—adjust, conform, adapt
Submit—bow, defer, accede, give in, yield, succumb
How do you submit to your husband or the authority that you are under?
Does it reflect how you submit to the Lord?