Proverbs 31 has always been something I would read and think, “Right. I won’t be sewing my own clothes. I can never meet this standard for a woman.”
Until recently … No, I didn’t become superwoman!
I realized that I had always compared myself to the Proverbs 31 woman, seeing myself as one who could never measure up.
But today I looked at Proverbs 31 in a new way. I viewed it as if I were the Proverbs 31 woman. I rewrote it in my own voice as if I were these things already.
I started speaking to my future self. Even where I don’t measure up to this standard, it is where I am going! Ladies, we may never arrive at perfect performance. What’s important is that we start. Start what? Sewing? No! We simply need to see ourselves through the eyes of who God has made us to be.
We need to speak to our future!
Experts suggest that you will get whatever behavior you expect from your child. Isn’t the same true for us? Low expectations breed low performance.
Scripture says that we will eat the fruit of our lips. What are your lips speaking about you, your family, and your future? Are they filled with life and truth or death and lies?
You try it! Here is what I did:
- My husband and sons-in-law love Jesus and do not give their strength to loose women. My daughters and I do not give our hearts or bodies to loose men—only to our husbands. (Proverbs 31:2-3)
- Our family is called to influence. Therefore, we will not drink so that our judgment is not impaired. (Proverbs 31:4-7)
- I will care for the underdogs. I will teach them to fish, not just feed them. (Proverbs 31:8-9)
- I am a capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman. I am more precious than rubies and pearls. (Proverbs 31:10)
- My husband confidently trusts, relies on, and believes in me. I have no lack. I comfort and encourage him. I do him only good until I pass from this earth. (Proverbs 31:11-12)
- I work hard. I am not lazy when it comes to caring for my family. I prepare their meals. (Proverbs 31:13-14)
- I rise early. First thing, I bring my family spiritual nourishment. I assign tasks to each member of my family and each worker. (Proverbs 31:15)
- I am a good steward of what God has given me. I have the mind of Christ and wisdom from the Lord, and I use it in every business and financial decision. I don’t ignore my most important responsibilities. (Proverbs 31:16)
- I encourage myself in the Lord and in truth so I can be spiritually minded rather than carnally minded. I am physically fit. My arms are strong and firm so that I have the life to carry out what God has called me to do. (Proverbs 31:17)
- The work of God in me I acknowledge and remember when hard times press around me. God’s light continues to shine in trials of all kinds. (Proverbs 31:18)
- I work hard. I feed others who are poor in spirit. (Proverbs 31:19-20)
- I have skills that benefit my family (like sewing, designing, etc.). God will equip me with whatever skills I need. I dress like an ambassador of Jesus Christ. (Proverbs 31:21-22)
- My husband is known at the city gates. He consults with the elders of all the lands— pastors, teachers, and business leaders. (Proverbs 31:23)
- I write Bible studies, books, and skits and make videos, games, and fun things to help Christ followers know who they are in Christ. I build up leaders in my own and future generations to lead in their own circles. (Proverbs 31:24)
- Strength and dignity are my clothing. My position is strong and secure. I rejoice over the future. My family is ready for it! (Proverbs 31:25)
- My mouth is filled with godly wisdom, and my tongue is kind. I give counsel and instruction. (Proverbs 31:26)
- I refuse to be idle! I am not discontent. I don’t pity myself. I refuse to gossip. I look well to how things go in my home. (Proverbs 31:27)
- My children will call me blessed. My daughters’ hearts toward me are always pure.
- My husband boasts about and praises me. He thinks I am the cream of the crop. (Proverbs 31:28-29)
- I fear the Lord. I worship the Lord. I am in awe of You, Lord! (Proverbs 31:30)
- I will reap what I sow. My works will show the fruit of the Spirit. (Proverbs 31:31)
We need to stop comparing ourselves to others and just enjoy the fact that God is moving in us!